Or he can explain it to them why he doesn't want to spend time with them in person. The commandment to "leave [her] father and [her] mother, andcleave unto [her husband]" isn't something you want to disrupt. The more specific you can be, the more you can own your feelings associated with it. Like I said, I pushed my wife a bit hard at first to come to family gatherings and warm up to my family. "If you are invited to a family function and or suggest a family activity and they ask if your partner will be joining the activity in a less-than-inviting tone, you can be fairly certain there is a problem. His choice. Hes going to have moments where he makes you feel less of a priority. So put aside the awks phone chat you might have to have with your Mum, and enjoy the fact that this year you can eat until you feel sick with your bae. It may or may not be a "healthy" way to handle conflict, but removing oneself from a toxic environment is effective. While this is sound advice, if your husband hasnt taken you out, whether its for dinner, a movie, shopping, or otherwise, it could be a sign that he doesnt want to spend time with you. No one likes a scene, especially when the person causing them is not related to anyone present. So if you feel your husband growing distant, and you realize he hasnt said I love you in a long time, it could be because hes wrestling with feeling like he doesnt want you around. Community Rules apply to all content you upload or otherwise submit to this site. Heres the bottom line: Were all busy, weve all got the same amount of time in a day. "If your family dont want to see both of you together, tell you they dont like your partner, or try to see you alone, theres something wrong," Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Either way, neither one is acceptable. I can be a bit headstrong, and reflecting on her words I had to admit she was right and that I often charged ahead and made decisions for the both of us. Change will only happen if both of you are willing. //